Gentle Feedback in a Harsh World

I received some feedback on a project recently that was delivered with such kindness it almost felt like a compliment. The person did not sugarcoat the issues, but they phrased them in a way that made me feel capable of fixing them. They focused on the potential of the work rather than the failure of the current version. It made me want to work harder. That is the power of gentle feedback—it inspires rather than crushes.

As we celebrate National Kindness Week 2026, let's look at how we correct others. Whether it is a coworker, a partner, or a child, our words have the power to either build a bridge or burn one. When we are harsh, the other person's brain goes into defensive mode. They stop listening and start protecting themselves. When we are kind, their brain stays open to learning. It is simply more effective.

Kindness does not mean being a pushover. You can be firm and clear while still being respectful. It is about removing the 'sting' of ego from the conversation. You are not trying to prove you are better than them; you are trying to reach a common goal. This requires a high level of self-awareness. You have to check your own frustrations at the door so they do not bleed into your delivery.

Next time you have to give someone a 'critique,' try to find the 'growth point' first. Acknowledge what they did well, and then frame the correction as a way to make the good stuff even better. This small change in perspective can save a relationship and vastly improve the quality of the work. It is an act of kindness that pays dividends for everyone involved.