You Can’t Pour From A Cracked Cup

You’re out here trying to save the world, support your besties, and fix every problem in your group chat. It’s noble, truly. But look at your hands—they're shaking. You’re trying to pour out love and energy, but your own cup is cracked and leaking everywhere. You’re giving people the scraps of your soul and wondering why you feel resentful. It’s because you forgot the most basic rule of the game: you are your first priority.

If you want to be the person everyone can lean on, you have to be a solid pillar. Pillars don't stay standing if they aren't maintained. Taking a day off to just exist isn't selfish; it’s maintenance for the person who does the most. When you show up fully charged, you’re ten times more effective than when you’re dragging. It is about longevity, not just intensity.

Let’s get real about the guilt. We feel bad for taking me time because we think we’re being main characters in a bad way. But newsflash: if you don’t take care of the main character, the story ends. Effective advocacy, good friendship, and career moves all require a nervous system that isn't constantly in fight or flight mode. You deserve the same compassion you give to everyone else.

So, go do the thing that makes you feel human again. Whether that’s a long walk without a podcast or a three-hour nap, do it with zero apologies. Your community needs the best version of you, not the most exhausted version. Healing yourself is how you start healing the world around you. Put yourself back on the to-do list and watch how everything else starts to align.